27 June 2015 Regional Day

Venue: Orange Seventh-day Adventist Church, corner Allenby and Icely Roads, Orange

Details for the day are below the following poster..

The two programs tie perfectly together, with one ministering to the children, the other the parents. While the kids are engaged in stories, singing, crafts and puppetry; the parents are involved in discussion, sharing and learning in an intensive relationship seminar in just the next room. Pr David Haupt, an experienced Christian Counsellor and Pastor will be facilitating the marriage enrichment sessions, whilst Hayden Petersen, Youth Director for the SNSW Conference will be leading a team to facilitate the Children’s worship program. The sessions will take place over the course of a Sabbath, with all sessions being run in the one day.

An overview of the program is as follows:

9:30am – 11:00am

  1. First Session – Introduction: Married to the opposite sex! What is the ‘Problem!’ (Note: you may laugh & cry - but only at yourself, as you recognise your own misconceptions - tissues will be provided).

A Mouse In Solomon’s House – If you make Wisdom your friend, your adventures will never end! Introduction to Marble the mouse, Wisdom the hawk and King Solomon.

11:15am – 12:30pm

  1. Why so much Conflict in Marriage? Exposing Satan’s biggest lie and how your marriage has been effected by it.

A Mouse In Solomon’s House – You only get hurt when you make friends with fools. Marble learns the lesson the hard way about making the right friends!

12:30pm – 1:30pm

Lunch – Bring your own picnic lunch along!

1:30pm – 3:00pm

  1. Formula for Husbands to ‘speak’ love to his wife. Formula for Wives to ‘act-out’ respect to her husband. (Note: Both partners are welcome, but note-taking is not permitted!).

A Mouse In Solomon’s House – Hard work and perseverance are the keys to success in life. The ant teaches marble the value of hard work while the pig sleeps and slumbers.

3:00pm – 3:15pm

Short Interlude

3:15pm – 4:30pm

  1. The Secret for Change in your Marriage.

A Mouse In Solomon’s House – Being proud leads to disgrace, but humility is wisdom. Marble sees the arrogance of the peacock backfire in his face when the horses try to warn of an approaching storm.

Marriage Enrichment Workshop 

by David E Haupt (B.Th., MA Counselling - CMCAPA, CMPACFA)
Director of Family and Health Ministry, South NSW Conference of Seventh-Day Adventist Church.

There is a fallacy people hold on to regarding attendance of a Marriage Enrichment program - the fear that if people would see them attending a marriage enrichment seminar, they would think that their marriage is in trouble. So let me set the record straight, Marriage enrichment is not for problem marriages! Problematic marriages needs relationship intervention, and that comes through relationship counselling. Marriage Enrichment is for good marriages - to make them even better!

I recall my father, just prior to me getting married, saying: “Son, allow me to give you some marital advise. Don’t ever try to understand your wife. Just love her.” What he was suggesting, was that it is impossible to understand your spouse. He was suggesting that males and females speak a different ‘language,’ and that the opposite sex is unable to interpret and understand what the other is saying. Was my father right in his advise?

I’ve seen it happen. We might be using the exact same language, but have a completely different meaning attached to those words. Allow me to use an illustration:
A wife stands in front of her wardrobe and says: “I’ve got nothing to wear!” What she means by those words is that she has nothing new to wear! Her husband, standing in front of his wardrobe, and using the exact same words of “I’ve got nothing to wear,” has a completely different connotation and meaning - He has no clean clothing to wear in his wardrobe…!
Same words - different meaning. Do I need to say more…!

Let me ask you a very personal question. Are you content and even willing to live, for the rest of your life, with someone you’ll never be able to understand? Willing to connect with such a person from time to time on a physical-intimate level, but never truly connecting on an emotional-intimate level? If this is what marriage is designed to be, then I need to explain to you that what we are describing, is a form of legal prostitution - not marriage as God had designed it to be!

God had designed marriage to be an intimate relationship where both husband and wife will become ‘one,’ but also where they will ‘know’ each other. The Hebrew word to ‘know’ (See Gen. 4:1.) is yadah’ [ ????? ] which translates as - to know, be acquainted with, to perceive and see, find out and discern, to know by experience, to recognise, admit, acknowledge, confess…, and yes, it also refers to as knowing each other on a carnal basis …
“And Adam knew Eve his wife; and she conceived, and bare Cain, and said, I have gotten a man from the LORD.” Gen. 4:1.
God’s true intent with marriage was that there will be intimacy on both the spiritual, emotional and physical levels. But how can this be if couples communicate in code?

This one-day workshop will provide you with the information that I wish I had when I courted my wife. Since my discovery of this information, it’s become standard in my presentations to young couples I prepare for marriage. And as we explore some of this information during this one-day workshop, I am sure that some of your questions will be answered. This workshop will provide you with the following:
A starting point of decoding your spouses words and actions and remove misunderstanding and conflict in your marriage.
It will open your relationship towards greater understanding and appreciation of why God made you different.
It will lay the foundation for deeper emotional intimacy.
It will provide the husband with the formula to ‘speak’ love to his wife in a ‘language’ that she will understand
It will provide the wife with the formula to ‘act-out’ the ‘actions’ that will assure her husband that she respects him.

Areas covered in this workshop:

1. Introduction: Married to the opposite sex! What is the ‘Problem!’ (Note: you may laugh & cry - but only at yourself, as you recognise your own misconceptions - tissues will be provided).
2. Why so much Conflict in Marriage? Exposing Satan’s biggest lie and how your marriage has been effected by it.
3. Formula for Husbands to ‘speak’ love to his wife. (Note: Wives are welcome, but note-taking by wives is not permitted).
4. Formula for Wives to ‘act-out’ respect to her husband. (Note: Husbands are welcome, but note-taking by husbands is not permitted).
5. The Secret for Change in your Marriage.

Who should attend:

This workshop is for all interested in relationships, especially marital relationships. Whether you have been married for many years, recently married, or still planning to get married, the principles shared during this workshop, will revolutionise your relationship. Don't miss out on this opportunity.

There is one condition to attendance. Attending this workshop is going to challenge you to work on yourself - not work on your spouse. There is one person, by God’s grace, that you can change - yourself! Be willing to be ‘present’ for this transformation.